If You're Still Waiting this Valentine's Day

A while back I watched the movie based on the children's book Sarah, Plain and Tall. The story told of Sarah's three aunts who remained single and lived together. Though some would call them old maids, they called themselves The Treasures because, as they told everyone, they are unclaimed treasures.

Somewhere around the time that scene caught my eye, I read a novel by Kristin Billerbeck (and I don't even remember the title). The main character is 31 years old and single, and she's part of a singles group in her church that she affectionately calls The Reasons. She calls them this because she sees the oddities and quirks among her friends - the reasons that all of her peers are still single.

It's all about perspective. Do you see yourself as a “reason” and just focus on the “reasons” you aren’t married? (Even those of us who are married still have quirks or issues that are “reasons.”) Or do you see yourself as a treasure, an undiscovered treasure? If you are married, how do you see your single friends? Do you see them as Reasons? Or do you treat them as Treasures - encouraging them and building them up?

I try to encourage my single friends to 1) not give up on the pursuit of marriage and 2) to live life fully while they wait. Here are a handful of resources that are worth checking out if you're needing some extra encouragement this Valentine's week:

Landa Loring just released another powerful spoken word called "Worth the Wait." If you're still waiting for a spouse, let her words encourage you to stand strong in your wait. You are worth it!



Two books I wish I had read when I was single are:

Remember the Roses: How to Hold Out, Hang On, and Marry the Man of Your Dreams by Lynette Lewis

and 

Dateless Not Dead: Living Fully Alive in the Single Life by Jennifer Hand

Each of these books share stories, encouragement, and hope with Christian women who are single longer than they expected. Grab a copy! (PS These are not affiliate links - they're simply books I'm glad I read.)

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Hi, I’m Betsy, and I live in the Washington, D.C. area with my husband, Mike. We have been married since 2008, and look forward to the arrival of our first baby in 2018! We enjoy exploring new cities together on foot and doing life as a team.

I write because I feel called and I enjoy it, and I hope that my words point you toward God! My first book, Embracing Hope During Infertility is intended to infuse hope into your heart!  

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